How to Exasperate Your Wife

Dave Ramsey in his book Entreleadership points out that you will be like the five people you spend the most time with either in person or by reading.We learn by imitation. Clearly, to Christian men who wants to be true and faithful man, husband, and father, Uncle Douglas and his books are one of the best resources I ever met.This book helped me to understand my God Ordained role as a man and husband in an different perspective, and it is enlightening and interesting to read.Thank you Uncle Douglas!

This book offers some interesting insights on how to a better Christian husband and man. I enjoyed reading it, even though the author's scripture references are mostly from the King James translation. I've been a Christian for 40 years now, and my spiritual growth has been enhanced through the reading of translations using more contemporary language, but one can always look up the referenced verses so this was not a huge deal for me. The author's insights regarding being in the right "key" at home, and regarding what lust is and what it is not, and how the undisciplined mind can lead to serious mistakes were interesting and helpful. The conclusions of Chapter 10 ("The Meaning of Thoughtfulness") offer some really, really bad advice for male Christians serving in the military, and are seriously disrespectful to female service members. I've known several female Naval Officers in a professional and friendship capacity - the author's conclusion that the US Navy is in danger of becoming an "offshore brothel" tells me that he has no firsthand knowledge of those ladies desiring to serve. So, throw away Chapter 10, and the rest of the book has good material.

I have read a few marriage books, and out of all of them this book is the best. The author doesn't mince words and will likely offend many a man that reads it. However, in the end, he's right.If you want to be a better husband and father, there are vanishingly few books that can give you a better understanding of what that will take than "How to Exasperate Your Wife"

I am addicted to the writing of Douglas Wilson.In some degree it is a guilty pleasure, because there are times when he crosses the line of good taste.But when he does, it is hilarious and always sneaking in a nugget of uncomfortable truth.I would recommend this and all his books not to the squeamish or timid, but to those courageous souls who take their preaching straight with no filter.

My grandma told me that you can't keep a bird from flying over your head but you don't have to let it make a nest in your hair. Exegetical excellence and metaphorical flavor combine to make the kind of observations and suggestions only obtained through hours of time with miserable marriages.

This is the third or fourth book of Douglas (Gashma) Wilson that I’ve read. None of the previous books deserved more than a single star. This book fits into the single-star category. The reason might be explained in his YouTube persona. I have never met Pope Gashma in real life, but on the YouTube scene, he is presented as a wizened professor who is barraged by questions from a fawning and adulating mass of followers, and his words are spoken as Gospel truth, or, at least as legitimate as the Pope’s words when he speaks ex-cathedra. The questioner, who is usually a relative or close disciple of his, sits obediently in the worship of the sayings of Pope Gashma. I don’t disagree with many things that Gashma may say, but his thought processes and often non-sequitur conclusions drive me nuts. Gashma has been wonderful at standing up against the Woke movement in the church. Yet, he has a very restrictive theology of Reconstruction/Dominion which is even inconsistent among those who advocate strongly for that brand of theology.This text is intended to be a marriage counsel text. The first half of the book relates to personal relational issues. The second half relates to issues of sexual concern. The first half contains inane, vacuous advice for inter-personal relations in marriage. It doesn’t seem to be helpful beyond that of advice any secular counselor might offer for getting along with another person. The second half mostly deals with men dealing with sexual lust, but doesn’t really give helpful advice, and never is it actually helpful sexual advice. Better to have read Ed Wheat or a number of other Christian sexual advisors than to have read Gashma.This book was written by a “pastor” who has been in the trade for over 30 years. Thus, you’d expect mature reflections on a deeper conjugal relationship, but instead, you get trite advice and poor attempts to occasionally interject humor. There are no acknowledgments that Gashma has occasionally made serious counseling mistakes (Stitler and Wight are the top examples), yet Gashma never has the humility to admit that oftentimes marital issues can be quite vexing without good answers and that mistakes will be made. I view the book as perhaps an attempt to gloss over his sometimes distorted paternalism while claiming that he is NOT a macho man, and certainly NOT a producer of toxic masculinity. He is.There are much better books written from a Biblical perspective on marriage and the marriage relationship. Don’t waste your time on this book.

Enough said. The last chapter alone is worth the read. I plan to read this book again after typing this review. SDG.

Good book. Some weird references to Scripture (Jesus eating Honeycomb in Lk 24:41-43). Mostly talks about Lust and sexual immorality.

That's the title of the book I saw a man reading on the train recently, and as you can well imagine, I was horrified by it and began to wonder what crazy advice was written in this diabolical book.There was only one thing for it.I bought it on Amazon that night to inspect the gruesome content myself.I can safely confirm that this book was not full of tips on how to wind your wife up and annoy her to no end - thankfully. Instead, it is a little book about marriage and the role of husbands from a Christian author's biblical perspective over several short chapters - clearly the author is pretty smart, using an outrageous title and 'hard to ignore' book cover to grab men's attention (and women's - moi included) lol. I was reading it on the train and noticed some quite intense reactions form people looking at the cover lol. One man sitting opposite me leaned as far forward as he could with his head in his hands, staring at the book with a very serious look on his face!! I reckon there was at least one more Amazon purchase that night....

This is an excellent, challenging book for Christian husbands, but the title is misleading. If you were to prayerfully and earnestly implement the wise and godly counsel in this book, chances are your marriage would grow in joy, peace, mutual understanding and self-sacrificial love. Therefore, any man purchasing this book in the hopes that it will supply him with easy step-by-step instructions about slick, more effective, and sure-fire ways of making their wive's lives more miserable needs to be warned: don't be fooled, this is not the book for you!

Part of me wants to say that this is even better than Federal Husband (a book by the same Author and also directed to husbands).The provocations are of direct practical implications in a lot of places (something I often miss in Wilson's writing).I feel like I need to re-read this book. I didn't want to finish it. I need to live out these truths. The books is both provocative and inspiring for husbands with a brokenness-driven and hope-filled heart.